And I hope you’ve missed me too! After nearly a year of not blogging, it is time to pick it up again. I’ll be participating in blog chains, flash fiction carnivals, and doing regular posts again. I hope you’ll join me and we can all have some fun.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to recover when life throws you a curve ball. I’ve recently been battling some interesting set-backs in my personal life, and I want to share the methods that have helped me start the rebuilding process.
- Wallow… just for a bit: When a life-changing piece of bad news smacks you upside the head, sometimes you just have to wallow. Curl up in a ball, cry for a bit, avoid life, grab a book, find a diversion… all of these are good tactics for just getting through those first few days of disbelief.
- Find a friend: Don’t forget, for even a moment, that your friends are there for you. They will help you feel stronger, help you put life in perspective. Call and vent, or bitch, or whine. Then… LISTEN. Your friends see you for who you really are. When they tell you that you can handle this… believe them.
- Find your small core of strength: After throwing yourself a pity-party for a few days, it is time to find your strength again. Start small. Within every person, there is a core of strength. You have to find it. This strength can be a belief in God, or a belief in yourself. Wrap yourself around the core of strength, so you can build on it. Know that you can handle nearly anything life throws at you.
- Change your brain: The old saying tells us that there is a silver-lining in every cloud. Find it. It won’t fix all of your problems, but it will give you a constructive way to view your situation.
- Motion: When life goes to hell, the best way to begin recovery is to move forward. Just the simple act of doing something makes you feel stronger. Even making one small change, or attacking one small piece of the problem each day can have a profound effect on your life.
- Remember how to eat an elephant - one bite at a time: There probably isn’t any one magical solution that will turn your life around. But there are many solutions that together will enact a change.
One of the most important things I have to tell myself, is to keep everything in perpective. If no one died.. then everything else is “do-able”. Life may not turn out exactly how we had hoped, but there can be joy and happiness in even the darkest of times. I’m working on my personal issues, and I hope you’ll work on yours also.
Please share with me. What helps you in times of despair or turmoil? What methods do you use to keep your brain on track?
Peace and Love,
Kat
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